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Sep
25
Listening as a social skill
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This blog post begins the start of a new category that will overlap with other categories. That category is called social skills and is best described by the definition given at www.businessdictionary.com as the ability to communicate, persuade, and interact with other members of the society, without undue conflict or disharmony.
According to Henrik Edberg at http://www.positivityblog.com there are at a minimum at least eight basic tips on social skills that have been used successfully over and over throughout thousands of years.
One of the most basic social skills or component of social skills is to listen to another person or persons.
The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them. ~ Ralph Nichols
Because people are often centered upon themselves and this being a part of human nature listening is probably one of the least appreciated social skills. Unfortunately most people are just used to talking about themselves or waiting for the other person to finish so they can start talking again. I have noticed that a majority of people, myself included, fall into this category.
Listening is about much more than hearing the words that come out of another person’s mouth. It is about showing interest in what the other person is saying and taking the time to understand what is being said. Rajesh Setty, who is a friend and business associate of mine, mentions that active listening is often overlooked for several reasons such as ego, lack of knowledge, not being able to handle silence, amongst other reasons. Because of this people focus on talking rather than listening.
Henrik states to get past this he has found that it is important to just forget about yourself and focus your attention outward during a conversation rather than inward. In other words place the mental focus on the person you are talking and listening to instead of on yourself. This makes you less self-centered and your need to be in the spotlight diminishes.
When you actually listen to what people are saying it also becomes easier to find potential paths in the conversation. By asking what are known as open-ended questions – those that will give you more than a yes or no answer, you can explore these paths and have more interesting conversations.
You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time.— M. Scott Peck
Sep
9
Investing In You
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Okay so this isn’t really an article but it is an ad for a book that I am promoting through a program called Low Stress Income. The name of the ebook/manual is Investing in You – Beyond the Power of Positive Thinking.
Anyway, here is the sales copy for the manual:
Have you struggled to get the things you want in life?
Have you purchased endless courses and tape sets to learn how to be effective?
We all have.
But are they working for you?
I’m willing to bet that you may have seen some results but the programs failed to deliver the big promises
they made.
This is because some of these guru’s are successful but just aren’t good teachers!
What does this mean?
These guru’s may have achieved incredible results themselves but they just don’t know how to bring out everything that they did to get there in their courses.
Maybe they aren’t intentionally hiding anything from you but there are things that happen in their unconscious mind that bring them the results they get.
I can show you the unconscious secret that they can’t show you:
Thanks,
Keith Stieneke
PS. Take control of your mind, your heart and your life!
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Sep
2
upbeat, Cultivating the right attitude to thrive in tough times
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Many times I have referred to Rajesh Setty in this blog, especially referring to information from his book Beyond Code, Learn to distinguish yourself in 9 simple steps!
Rajesh sent me his new book, upbeat, Cultivating the right attitude to thrive in tough times, a few months ago.
When I reviewed Beyond Code, I did it as excerpts relating to personal development. Although, there was a great deal of information in upbeat, that could be related to personal development, I decided for the time being rather than to review the book based upon each concept and idea presented to review it in its entirety. The review that I wrote is published on Facebook.
You can also read more about this book at http://www.rajeshsetty.com/resources/books/upbeat/
