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Dec
18
Listening
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To listen well, is as powerful a means of influence as to talk well, and is as essential to all true conversation -Chinese Proverb
The next to the last step within what Rajesh Setty describes as the outer game of distinguishing yourself is about listening. Unfortunately for several reasons such as ego, lack of knowledge, about asking questions, not being able to handle silence, and others, people focus on talking rather than listening.
There are several steps to developing better listening skills. These include but may not be limited to:
1: Listening to yourself first so that you encourage positive self talk.
2. Learn to ask the right questions, because our ability to talk less and listen more will depend upon two things. These two things are our wanting to listen, and our ability to ask the right questions.
It is improtant to listen without prejudice. Trust messages as if they were received from one of your mentors. Resist the temptation to reach conclusions instantly and to make statements based on such conclusions. Remember to keep an open mind as you will never know who will give you the next great idea.
A good listener tries to understand what the other person is saying. In the end he may disagree sharply, but because he disagrees, he wants to know exactly what it is he is disagreeing with. – Kenneth A. Wells
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Dec
17
Likeability
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In Rajesh Setty’s steps to distinguishing yourself as detailed in his book Beyond Code: Learn to Distinguish Yourself in 9 Simple Steps that there are 5 inner steps and 4 outer steps. So far we have reviewed the 5 inner steps referred to as learn, laugh, look, making lasting impressions and love. We have also covered leverage one of the 4 outer steps to distinguishing one’s self.
In this post we shall cover the next outer step that being likeability. It is to our advantage both professionally and personally to make others feel good about themselves. To do this we must be genuinely interested in those others. We need to add measurable value to everything we do especially within our interactions.
Therefore we must develop a healthy self-esteem, in order that we can learn to both give and to receive. Be trustworthy so that others will share information, just make sure not to misuse this information. And lastly, be optimistic and remember that the key to positive thinking is “Hope for the best, and be prepared for the worst.”
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Dec
16
Adding this blog to MyLot
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I am attempting to add this blog to MyLot in order to get more exposure. To do this I must make a post about it.
Dec
8
Leverage your influence
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Before the year is over I want to finish presenting the steps given by Rajesh Setty in his book Beyond Code – Learn How to Distinguish Yourself in 9 Simple Steps. I have already presented the first five steps. Those steps are referred to by Rajesh as the part of the inner game. It is now time to reveal the four remaining steps, those that are part of the outer game.
The first of those is leverage and here is what Rajesh says about leverage:
Leverage obtains its importance from the fact that we achieve different results because each of us invest our time and energy differently. We are reminded that we are not the sole handler of a problem but have many resources that we can leverage to help us, the most important of these being other people.
When I read what Rajesh says about leverage I am reminded of what Napoleon Hill said in his book Think and Grow Rich about people who formed a mastermind group. He claimed on his deathbed that the mastermind principle was the most important of all the success principles he identified. A mastermind group is a support team that meets on a regular basis to share advice, feedback, and ideas among its members. Together we know more and can focus more energy than any one of us can alone. The mastermind group can function as your personal board of directors. For more information about the MasterMind Principle go to http://www.getyourassetsingear.com/mastermind.htm
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Nov
18
The Why Not Me Movie
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How many times have you wondered why you aren’t successful, fortunate or happy as some other people seem to be? Why haven’t you accomplished this or that? Do you believe you don’t have it in you? I beg to disagree, you do have the potential. This little three minute movie Why Not Me? asks you to examine yourself, and answer Why Not Me? and ask yourself better questions that will create more happiness and opportunity for you. This little movie helps you to contemplate what questions you should really be asking when you ask why not me.
Why not create more happiness and opportunity for yourself? Watch the Why Not Me? movie today.
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Oct
29
Loving what you do
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Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful. – Albert Schweitzer
This is the last post about the inner game of distinguishing yourself. The next posts about distinguishing yourself will focus on the outer game. According to Rajesh Setty the last step of the inner game is about love. Within this step of exploring ones inner self consider that passion rules. Problems arise so that heroes may overcome them. Remember of course that Success=Love what you do and Do what is required.
The Grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for. – Allan K. Chalmers
The true way to render ourselves happy is to love our work and find in it our pleasure. - Francoise de Motteville
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Oct
27
The Responsibility Report
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If I have everything set up right with Tweetlater you should be able to get the link to my new 6 page PDF The Responsibility Report: Performance Improvement for Peak Performance by following me at the microblogging platform Twitter. Just set up an account at Twitter.com and then follow me at http://twitter.com/kstien1959. You should receive a welcome email with the link to the report.
If this does not happen please let me know. Alternatively you may subscribe to my RSS feed via email and then request the report by posting a comment here under this post. I will confirm your subscription and send you the link to the report. Subscribe to Your Personal Best by Email
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Oct
22
Making Lasting Impressions
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Our moments of inspiration are not lost though we have no particular poem to show for them; for those experiences have left an indelible impression, and we are ever and anon reminded of them. – Henry David Thoreau
Rajesh Setty lists in his book Beyond Code that the fourth step of the inner game of distinguishing oneself is to make lasting impressions. In making lasting impressions you show that you care about both others and the quality of your work. Be resourceful, and go beyond the call of duty. Most of all, leave a legacy so that people in general, or people at your company or project remember you when you’re gone.
If you want to win friends, make it a point to remember them. If you remember my name, you pay me a subtle compliment; you indicate that I have made an impression on you. Remember my name and you add to my feeling of importance.- Dale Carnegie
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Oct
15
Are you eating more fat than you realize?
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Part of personal development is weight loss if you are overweight due to the fact that being overweight can contribute to many health problems. I personally love salads as a meal or part of a meal from time to time. Are you someone who loves salads and are using them as a part of your weight loss plan? If you are eating salads in order to lose weight you could be sabotaging your weight loss plan. Here’s how this may be happening:
Did you know that any type of oil used in foods or in cooking are high in fat? This includes the various types of oils used in salad dressings. This includes oils that are thought to be healthy such as olive oil. Unfortunately many Americans consume 60 grams of added fat each day in the form of oils.
The culprits in question here are refined or extracted oils. They are 100 % fat. What can you do to avoid sabotaging your lettuce and other green salads?
Here are some tips that you may follow:
1. Don’t use salad dressing on your salad. Include enough of a variety of vegetables in it that it has a naturally good flavor.
2. Use flavored vinegars. There are several available now and some even come in convenient spray bottles so that you may spray your salad with these vinegars.
3. Use fresh lemon juice as a flavoring. Take a fresh lemon, cut it in half and squeeze the juice out of it directly into your salad.
If eating a green salad without salad dressing doesn’t appeal to you then here’s some ideas to watch the amount of fat that you are consuming:
1. Make sure that you use salad dressings that use unrefined oils. Unrefined oil has bioactive components. This gives them healthful benefits and provide full-bodied flavor. It also makes the oil more prone to oxidation.
2. Rather than pouring salad dressing directly onto your salad pour a small amount such as two to four ounces in a small container. Dip your fork into the container randomly as you eat the salad and by the time you are done eating the salad you should have consumed much less salad dressing than you normally would have.
My advice is to eat your green salads. Use organically grown lettuce, preferably fresh Romaine whenever available, and if you are careful about what you put on your salads you should start to lose weight, especially if used with other healthy lifestyle habits.
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Oct
14
As I walk’d by myself, I talk’d to myself And myself replied to me; And the questions myself then put to myself, With their answers I give to thee. – Bernard Barton
According to Rajesh Setty the third step in the inner game of distinguishing yourself is to look. Look both beyond what is expected of you and at places, ideas, people and other influences with which you can learn from and leverage. This includes such things as your schooling, religion, and your circle of influence among other things of importance to look at an examine your life.
You should examine yourself daily. If you find faults, you should correct them. When you find none, you should try even harder. - Israel Zangwill
We learn more by looking for the answer to a question and not finding it than we do from learning the answer itself. – Lloyd Alexander
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