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Sep
9
The way that I roll
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This is how the story goes. Life is full of ups and downs. As it turns out many of the downs as well as the ups are due to our own accord. Although we cannot control such influences as the weather, natural disasters, illnesses or many predicaments, or the actions of other people, we can control our reactions to them. Our reactions and the consequences that come about due to them are of our own accord.
This article is about the subject of responsibility, defined as a form of trustworthiness; the trait of being answerable to someone for something or being responsible for one’s conduct. We should be most answerable to is ourselves in the way that we handle situations.
Reactions are often in response to life’s outcomes. Many of life’s outcomes represent the answers to the questions that we ask when a crisis or dramatic situation arises. The quality of our life is defined by the quality of the questions that we ask about any situation. We don’t want a tornado to rip our house apart, but if such a tragedy occurs, we can either wallow in pity or move on and find a new home and realize how lucky we are to have personally survived the devastation.
The first of these type of questions begs for an answer that aspires to be negative. Whenever someone looks for blame, even placing it upon themselves, it doesn’t solve the problem. Rather, emotions like anger, despair, and fear arise.
There are two types of questions that we ask in life. Those that try to place blame on someone or something and those that attempt a solution so that a similar problem doesn’t arise again. Do you ask why, or do you ask why not?
When something happens to me, I have started to ask “Why not me?” That makes me look for ways to prevent something from happening again and looks for the positive in the situation.
When you answer a question with a why not, or an okay, then you start to look for ways to make things better.
Questions that are answered by ways to solve a problem are in response a mechanism of positive thinking and of course asking what could be called the ‘right questions’.
Unfortunately too many people are unable to forgive. That is a choice they make that assigns blame to another person or to even to themself. Possibly in their own way this is how they solve the possibility of not having the same situation arise again. However, because of the blaming they fail to see the true cause of the problem.
When a negative situation arises such as a friend having a negative reaction such as misunderstanding, and a potential “blow-up” possibly the best reaction that you can have is to take five deep breaths and remove yourself emotionally from the situation.
Some people live to blame others or blame situations. The alternative is to say to yourself, “From this day forth I choose to accept responsibility and look for solutions”. That is the positive thing to do. After all, in the words of a friend when asked why he might behave a certain way in reaction to a certain situation, he answered “That’s the way that I roll.”
How do you roll?
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Sep
3
Components of Trust
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Who is that you trust? Do you know why you trust them? How do you go about developing trust from others? Several psychologists define trust based on the components that they believe make up trust. As someone who studies human behavior I happen to agree with these findings and the definition.
What components of trust are believed to make up the definition of trust and how may developing these key components empower both your personal and business relationships?
The first component that I will mention in this article is competence. Competence is defined in the dictionary as ‘the quality of being adequately or well qualified physically and intellectually’. Competence means that you will be able to give correct information and are also able to perform a task efficiently. You wouldn’t expect someone with a fifth grade education to do brain surgery as it is something that they aren’t trained to do, or are intellectually capable of. Are you capable of doing what you attest to be able to do?
The second component of trust to be mentioned in this article is predicability, that is the quality of being predictable. If somoeone is usually on time for work or constantly tells you that they will do something and they carry through on that they are predictable in respect to these behaviors. Therefore, as long as they carry through with the same behaviors there will be no unpleasant surprises. I have a web based program that can be used to look up the definition of any word and one of the definitions of trust that I found certainly supports this component of trust. That definition is ‘certainty based on past experience’. Predictability can go two ways. One is positive: “Bill is predicable as we can always expect him to show up at work on time.” Secondly, is a negative example: “John, is going to get fired as he is always ten minutes late for work.”
The third component of trust to be mentioned is benevolence. Benevolence has been defined as a ‘disposition to do good’ and an ‘an act intending or showing kindness and good will’. Benevolence is about doing what is in somebody’s best interest. Sometimes this means that you might have to deny someone something. A case in point would be having a friend who is an alcoholic and financially destitute asking you to supply them alcohol. It is in their best interest that you deny doing such a thing for them.
The fourth and last component of trust is honesty. Honesty is simply defined as ‘the quality of being honest’. Honesty has both been defined as ‘not disposed to cheat or defraud; not deceptive or fraudulent’ and as ‘worthy of being depended on’. Honesty is a matter of truth, and is defined as marked by truth. It means that what you say is accurate and that you aren’t fabricating what you are telling them. They definitely do not want to be friends or business associates with someone who is dishonest or who lies to them.
Because of the various backgrounds and life experiences of different individuals the amount of time to develop a trusting relationship varies. It is also true that people who are trustworthy are more quickly able to detect other people with the same traits. Fortunately or unfortunately many trustworthy people want to believe in the innate goodness of human kind and therefore sometimes give people chances to be trustworthy to the point of jeopardizing themselves and being vulnerable to many unpleasant experiences. Giving people these chances to prove themselves is good, however, you must be wary and ready to respond as sometimes these situations have a way of backfiring.
Someone may not trust you now; however, that doesn’t mean that by expressing these four components of trust, that they won’t learn to trust you. Earning trust and developing trust both happen by degree and unfortunately in both there can be setbacks at times. However, as in any worthwhile endeavor one must continue to strive for perfection. Whether you are trying to develop a relationship of trust with another person or in business dealings you must first earn trust. Once you have earned trust the reputation for you being trustworthy will spread.
Keith Stieneke is the webmaster and administrator of http://www.your-personal-best.com, http://www.opportunityassistance.com, http://www.blogsmart-resources.com, http://www.article-database.com, and http://www.marketing6s.com. He is an accomplished writer and blogger with several articles published online.
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Sep
1
Mind Movies
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The Secret if you are not aware is a movie about the power of attraction. I am not referring here to attraction as the quality of arousing interest; being attractive or something that attracts you to someone or someone to you. Rather I am referring to attraction as the force by which one object attracts another. In other words, although we are much more than objects, it is the force that by what we can attain what we desire, starting with visualizing that desire and having it.
In the book The Aladdin Factor by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen they describe the process of getting whatever you want to out of life by asking including such things as personal happiness, creative fulfillment, professional success and even freedom from fear. The power of intention is simple: think about what you would like to manifest in your life…good health, loving relationships, as much money as you need or want, work that inspires you, peace on the earth, a healthy environment. All of these things are our birthright, and through the Law of Attraction we can bring them into our daily experience.
All of the things that we attain in life that are brought about by setting up a process of attracting them into your life. For some people it is easier to attract the things into their lives than it is for other people. I believe that the process is much more complicated than what films like The Secret seem to suggest; however, I do believe that there is a hidden truth to the concepts shown there. One of these in my opinion is that every desire that we do attain starts with visualization. That’s where Mind Movies come into the stage of being useful. Mind Movies are movies made to help you visualize the things that you desire so that you can harness the power of attraction. You can get six pre-made Mind Movies focusing on the subjects of health, spirituality, money, friends and family, attracting a woman, or attracting a man simply by going to Mind Movies and entering your email address.
Technorati Tags: Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Law of Attraction, The Secret, visualization, desire
Aug
26
Thank Goodness It’s Monday
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Part of making this blog popular and finding quality information for you is in finding other personal development and motivation blogs and websites and mentioning them here.
A popular phrase with people is “Thank God, it’s Friday.” This is due to the fact that most people end their work week on Friday and can’t wait to do so. What if you actually looked so forward to your week that you said “Thank Goodness It’s Monday?” That’s the name of Scott Stratten’s new blog Thank Goodness It’s Monday. The byline of his blog is Refuse to believe that life is only enjoyable on the weekend.
I am truly impressed with the material on this blog. The blog has been created as a precursor to the announcement of the release of his book Thank Goodness It’s Monday. You can sign up to receive posts every time the blog is updated and then of course you will find out when the book is released.
Visit Thank Goodness It’s Monday and find out why I call this an exceptional blog.
Aug
24
Doing Your Personal Best
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I registered this domain name over two years ago but never made use of it until now. The reason for this is that I always wanted Your Personal Best to become one of the best personal development blogs on the Internet; however, I wasn’t yet ready to forge ahead with developing this domain.
What is Your Personal Best about? It is simply about providing information that can help you to become the best that you can be. It covers such topics as leadership, success principles, time management, relationships, wellness, financial management and much more.
This domain is the continuation of what I originally started at http://your-personal-best.blogspot.com and I hope to even improve the quality of information provided by eventually bringing aboard other people to help contribute relevant posts to this site.
