In Rajesh Setty’s steps to distinguishing yourself as detailed in his book Beyond Code: Learn to Distinguish Yourself in 9 Simple Steps that there are 5 inner steps and 4 outer steps. So far we have reviewed the 5 inner steps referred to as learn, laugh, look, making lasting impressions and love. We have also covered leverage one of the 4 outer steps to distinguishing one’s self.

In this post we shall cover the next outer step that being likeability. It is to our advantage both professionally and personally to make others feel good about themselves. To do this we must be genuinely interested in those others. We need to add measurable value to everything we do especially within our interactions.

Therefore we must develop a healthy self-esteem, in order that we can learn to both give and to receive. Be trustworthy so that others will share information, just make sure not to misuse this information. And lastly, be optimistic and remember that the key to positive thinking is “Hope for the best, and be prepared for the worst.”

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Well it isn’t often that I do it but I am totally cheating for this post by publishing a pre-printed letter by Internet marketer turned cause promoter Ken McArthur. The cause that he is justly promoting is to prevent teen suicide. Tomorrow I am going to be sending this out in my weekly newsletter sent to the people who belong to my article directory Article Database. I encourage you to pass this letter on.  Here is the letter:

Dear Friend,

My good friend, Ken McArthur is standing in a circus tent today asking 2,000 people to spread a message of hope to teenagers who don’t think that life is worth living.

I think it’s a great message of hope for anyone and would love to see all of my readers think about spreading it today.

Here’s Ken’s simple message for for giving hope (and maybe saving someone’s life!):

G - Greet and meet: talk to others, smile, say hello, ask someone how they are doing

I - Involve yourself and others: find a cause you can support, volunteer, pledge resources. Get the people around you involved, especially if you see someone beginning to withdraw. Invite them to participate in some activity, to “get out” of their comfort zone

V - Validate others: tell others that they matter – especially family members and friends that you tend to see daily but may take for granted, give genuine complements

E - Empathize: be a listening ear, take time to be fully present, don’t try to solve – just acknowledge someone’s feeling/hurt

You can find out more about Ken’s wonderful project with his Impact Action Team at:

http://clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/?l=GgG6Z&m=1cD3X5uEn.hr_r&b=RporB3_5ICVEsm.UKJDLmw

Spread this message today!

And if you send it on let me know how many you sent it to!

All the best,

Keith Stieneke

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